i’m mostly posting this as a reminder to myself, but i think other men struggling with body image or people who are dysphoric about their hips can benefit from seeing this too.
this is part of a body positivity campaign launched by clothing company dressman called #justthewayyouare and if you click that link there’s more body types being represented in their ads.
i have never seen any body positivity for men like this before, marketing ploy or not it DOES help me seeing my body type (wide hips and chub and all) being represented in a public space like this, especially with the word “perfect” attached to it.
i’ve came back to this picture for a while now as a reminder that my body is a valid body, and i hope it will help someone else too.
*valid does not mean healthy, or good, or to be privileged above common sense and kindness
A distinction for anyone who is young and hasn’t figured this out yet:
You are allowed to have whatever emotions you want. No one can control your emotions. Emotions are healthy responses to things.
You are not allowed to have behaviors that are harmful just because you have certain emotions. Your behaviors are what you can control, and they are far easier to control than your emotions.
You can be jealous about someone or their talents until you turn green, but it is harmful to yourself and to that person if you try to sabotage them because of it. You can be so angry you can literally feel your temperature rise, but this does not give you permission to rage at others.
Your emotions are valid. They are always valid. You are a person of value. However, you behaviors are not always justified just because of those emotions. You may not be able to control you emotions, but you can certainly control your behaviors.
“You may not be able to control your emotions, but you can certainly control your behaviors.”
This is something we worked on a lot in cognitive behavioral therapy, the whole point for me was to allow myself to feel depressed or sucidal, accept it, think about it, then choose to not act on it. Especially with my schizophrenia, ive gotten a lot better dealing with intrusive thoughts.
hawaiian things white people like:
- ukuleles
- luau themed parties
- weird hip sway hula dancing
- flower child aesthetic (leis, crowns)
hawaiian things white people don’t like:
- the struggle to protect our sacred lands and traditions from tourists
- the fact that our country has been taken from us illegally
- native hawaiians basically
